For whom winning an argument at any cost is written in stone?
Treats her friends, even strangers more compassionately than her husband?
Proverbs 31 women understand these behaviors are shameful. Knowing if they do not respect and honor their husbands. Neither will others.
Everyone recognizes her husband in the public square, and no one fails to respect him as he takes his place of leadership in the community. (Proverbs 31:23)
What motivates a wife to disrespect her husband? Does she think
- it makes her look interesting?
- publically criticizing her husband will change him?
The answer to both questions is NO!!!!!!!!!!
Men would rather be alone and unloved than feel inadequate and disrespected.
Public humiliation births shame. Over time this shame is psychologically damaging. The individual retreats emotionally and physically. Increasing the likelihood of depression and substance abuse.
Criticism signifies a lack of gratitude and/or trust.
The Proverbs 31 woman through her words, actions and body language says to her husband.
I respect you.
You are smart and can do this.
If you make a mistake or fail, it is not the end of the world.
I am proud of you and so are your children.
As a wife you are to honor your husband, not emasculate him. Exhorting, encouraging him so he can overcome the challenges of manhood, marriage and fatherhood. Unveiling the competent, confident and virtuous husband you desire.
John Eldredge in his book Wild at Heart writes:
If you’ve spent any time around horses, you know a stallion can be a major problem. They’re strong, very strong, and they’ve got a mind of their own. Stallions typically don’t like to be bridled, and they can get downright aggressive— especially if there are mares around. A stallion is hard to tame. If you want a safer, quieter animal, there’s an easy solution: castrate him.
A gelding is much more compliant. You can lead him around by the nose; he’ll do what he’s told without putting up a fuss. There’s only one problem: Geldings don’t give life. They can’t come through for you the way a stallion can.
A stallion is dangerous all right, but if you want the life he offers, you have to have the danger too. They go together.
What do you want in your marriage?
Safety and sameness?
Danger and adventure?
Just remember. Safety and sameness over time evolves into boredom and eventually death.
Be a VOICE in the deafening sound of sameness!