The statistics regarding the destructiveness of sex are both shocking and disheartening. What went wrong? Why are Americans engaging in sexual practices that are destructive and unfulfilling?
I believe it boils down to a lack of wholeness and the absence of a moral compass. Many no longer consider sexual intimacy as a spiritual practice— a means of drawing closer to God.
Sexual intimacy from the beginning was sacred— an act of obedience— an act of glorifying God. What was God’s first commandment to BOTH Adam and Eve after their creation?
Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it. Using all its vast resources in the service of God and man. (Genesis 1:28)
God did not command them to pray, worship, fast, obey Him and Him alone. He told them to multiply. How do humans multiply? SEX!
Yes, Adam and Eve’s first act of obedience to Almighty God was sexual intimacy. No wonder satan does whatever he can to destroy or profane sexual intimacy. Convincing us sex is in the same category as eating, watching television or exercising. That it is not a spiritual act that solidifies our relationship with God.
How has satan brainwashed us?
Lie #1: One does not have to be married to have sex.
I am convinced that the human heart hungers for constancy. In forfeiting the sanctity of sex by casual, nondiscriminatory “making out” and “sleeping around”. We forfeit something we cannot well do without. There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized. (Elizabeth Elliott)
There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy. Leaving us more lonely than ever. The kind of sex that can never “become one.”
There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies. These bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another.
Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please? Squandering what God paid such a high price for. The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body. (1 Corinthians 16-18)
The sexuality of community life is centered on marriage. Which joins two living souls as closely as in this world they can be joined.
This joining of two who know, love and trust one another. Brings them in the same breath in the freedom of sexual consent and into the fullest earthly realization of the image of God. From their joining. Other living souls come into being, and with them great responsibilities. That are unending, fearful, and joyful.
Because of our determination to separate sex from the practice of love in marriage and in family our public sexual morality is confused, sentimental, bitter, complexly destructive and hypocritical. (William Berry)
Lie #2: You do not need God, His wisdom or His grace to live a sexually fulfilling life.
Sexual intimacy is to be sacred and chaste because during sexual intimacy there is an union between flesh and spirit. This is why when the young man who rings the bell at the brothel is unconsciously looking for God. (Bruce Marshall)
Those who do not believe there is a spiritual connection would have you believe you can separate your body from your mind and spirit. That you can do whatever you want with your body, and there are no consequences for the rest of you being.
Not understanding that sex is an instinct that produces an institution. And it is positive and not negative. Noble and not base. Creative and not destructive. Because it produces this institution. That institution is the family. A small state or commonwealth, which has hundreds of aspects when it is once started that are not sexual at all. It includes worship, justice, festivity, decoration, instruction, comradeship, repose. Sex is the gate of that house; and romantic and imaginative people naturally like looking through a gateway. But the house is very much larger than the gate. There are indeed a certain number of people who like to hang about the gate and never get any further. (G. K. Chesterton)
Refusing to acknowledge
- God as the Creator of sex.
- God has the perfect plan for sexual intimacy.
- God and the necessity of His wisdom and grace.
We may indeed be sure that perfect chastity— like perfect charity— will not be attained by any merely human efforts. We must ask for God’s help. Even when you have done so, it may seem to you for a long time that no help, or less help than you need is being given. Never mind. After each failure, ask forgiveness, pick yourself up, and try again. (C. S. Lewis)
Check back next Tuesday for some strategies that you can use once you have picked yourself off the floor.
Be a VOICE in the deafening sound of sameness!