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What is it with the female gender? Why is it so difficult for many to behave honorably towards other women? Cat fights, backstabbing and shunning— it is both despicable and sad.

A 2007 study by the Workplace Bullying Institute reported that 37% of the American workforce has been bullied at work. 71% of women were more likely to target other women whereas only 51% of men targeted other men.

As a female, mother of three daughters and an educator I have observed this phenomenon firsthand. Unlike our male counterpart, odd numbers are not conducive to harmonious relationships between females. In general, women tend to have one close friend.

Why are females so possessive? Why do we perceive other women as a threat, not an ally? Why this us versus them mentality?

Insecurity.

In a male dominated society women are competing for a smaller piece of the pie. Insecurity feeds resentment and jealousy. This may explain why older women are more likely to befriend younger women because there is less of a perceived threat. By the time the younger women have risen through the ranks, older women will have retired.

Unconscious stereotypes of women flourish in our culture because women are sexualized and demeaned. Treated as second-class citizens— not worthy of honor or respect.

Pushed into a corner with limited opportunities. Many women believe they have no other option but to scratch and claw their way to success. A journey that leaves many psychologically and physically damaged.

But it is a new day. A new version of female is arising. Being assertive and competent without forsaking their femininity. Refusing to act like a prostitute or b$#%* because they are comfortable in their own skins.

Next Tuesday I will discuss what both women and men can do so women are allies, not World War III enemies.

Be a VOICE in the deafening sound of sameness!