Love one another as Jesus has loved us.

imagesHow many of your friends and family are perpetually tired and haggard? Lives consumed with activity, leaving little or no time for rest. That was once me until I learned the power of a two-lettered word— No.

Was it easy? No!


I had to overcome my “people pleasing” tendencies. Accepting the fact that people would be disappointed, even angry. Knowing others would think I was self-centered and selfish, I developed a thick skin when it came to gossip and slander. No longer able to justify my worthiness by what I did for others, or what others thought of me. Who I was in Christ became the cornerstone of my identity.

Relationships changed. Some even ended. No longer being at others beck and call has a way of doing that.

Hobbies and leisure activities were modified. Some even went by the wayside.

Volunteering whenever and wherever there was a need ended. I became more selective. Valuing my time, instead of abusing it.

Overtime my perpetual “to do” list disappeared. No longer allowing others or the culture to define what constitutes a life of excellence. Where once exhaustion and resentment reigned. Now peace and wisdom were my daily companions.

For this former Type A perfectionist, the rat race is over. I refuse to risk my neck for a tiny piece of cheese.mice-in-a-mousetrap-9892-m


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6 thoughts on “Rat Race Losers

  1. I’ve joined the “no” group too! It’s put a dent in some relationships,but I’ve found that it’s been worth it.

  2. Rita Poynor says:

    It’s great isn’t it Tootie? I’m very protective of my time. Experiencing the difference, I will never return to my life of frantic unhappiness.

  3. CBurns says:

    I’m heading in that direction and some people DO NOT like it…lol. It’s like your selfish for pleasing you and not them?? Okay????? Thanks for sharing this!

    1. Rita Poynor says:

      Something I’ve learned that overtime the radical change that others observe in you is motivating. The peace and self-assurance you emanate is something they too want. I have a few friends and family members who too have begun withdrawing from the rat race. Hang in there! It’s life changing.

  4. I think everyone gets raised to join the rat race. If you can escape and lead a different path, then it can lead to a more fulfilling life.

    Nice post.

    1. Rita Poynor says:

      Thanks Danny! It’s made all the difference in my life. If I’d only learned it sooner, but better late than never. Have a great day!

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