If you haven’t seen The Way, Way Back, you really should. It’s one of those movies that’s both entertaining and thought provoking. Depicting a myriad of relationships, one is reminded how important and difficult authentic, transparent relationships are.
Go into any bookstore and peruse the self-improvement section. There you will find a multitude of books claiming that you too can have happy, healthy relationships if you will follow a few simple rules. And yet, despite the abundance of relational advice, relationships are more fractured than ever.
Whether a marital, a dating, a friendship, a family or a parental relationship there are common variables that lead to unfulfilling or failed relationships.
- A lack of commitment— one person feels an unfair amount of responsibility to maintain the relationship
- Arguing that doesn’t lead to resolution
- Unrealistic expectations
- Inability to allow and appreciate the personality differences of one another
- Lack of trust
As I left the movie theater, a thought screamed at me. “If you settle—continually make concessions in order to maintain a relationship, a part of you dies. And like a rotten potato, eventually everyone you touch also begins to die.”
I vowed then and there I’d no longer stink up my relationships with compromise. What you see is what you get. Take it or leave it.